Since graduating high school and leaving my childhood home, I have always lived with roommates. In college it was one, after graduation it became two, and just recently I moved in with three. Like most others who live with roommates, I share a living space due to financial necessity. Splitting rent obviously makes the expense of shelter and utilities more affordable.
But despite this large stipulation, even if I had the financial means to live on my own, I don’t know that I’d care to.
By Allie Stoehr
We've all seen (or maybe posted) the yearly "friend clean-up" status on Facebook.
Ok, I'm going through my friends list and deleting anyone I haven't talked to in the last six months.
When I entered into the adult life that is called a career, I began to try to organize certain aspects of my life I thought needed some attention. I looked at my closet and got rid of (most of) my graphic tees. I stood in tears at the foot of my bed and decided to replace my purple sheets with some expensive linen, (which really didn’t make much of a difference considering I still sleep with an E.T. stuffed animal.) The plastic plates in my cupboard turned to glass and I slowly became part of the working class. But upon reflection of what else I needed to “upgrade”, I felt like social media was an off-limits place I was afraid to touch.
Throughout the entirety of my upbringing I’ve looked at money and asked a very single, pointed question: how much is in my bank account right now? If I had enough to buy whatever thing I was looking at, then I bought it. If I didn't have enough–and most times I didn't–I didn’t buy it.
In high school and college, I felt like the outsider for struggling with spending money and also with understanding how much of it I needed and how much of it I actually had. For a guy who’s been working since he was 12, I really had no concept of saving or any sort of financial planning.
By Sarah Daniel
One of the biggest life changes for me after college has been the amount of friends I lost. I went to a large university and being a student and going out a lot, left me with an overwhelming amount of friends while I was in school. Let’s be real, some were less of friends and more of acquaintances.
It’s easy to keep friendships going when you are in the same place doing the same things, but it takes a lot more effort to maintain those friendships once you leave your shared space.
By Devin White
So here was the situation: I have a home. I have a roommate. I will soon not have a roommate. I want to still have the home.
My roommate, let’s call him Sarah (because I find calling him Sarah amusing), explained the situation shortly after I got my stuff there. The situation was a bit complicated, so I will simplify it. I moved in near the end of the lease, two months before it expired to take over for a previous tenant. Sarah decided not to renew the lease and instead move out to the great city of New York.
A few weeks ago, I wrote about how I wrestled with changing my name without losing my identity when I got married. And while the emotional aspect of changing my name was certainly difficult, once I finally made the decision to embrace an updated identity, I realized there was another hurdle I had to jump–the legal process.
I was so overwhelmed by the prospect of spending hours of my life dealing with Social Security, the DMV, and who knows how many other government organizations.
There’s no denying it – technology has become an extremely important part of our daily lives. From checking the weather forecast and traffic report before I leave for work in the morning, to sending pictures of potential clothes to my sister before I buy them (you know, just to make sure they look good…). I honestly wonder how we survived before. How did I live without knowing exactly how many steps I’ve taken in a day? What did I do with myself in a waiting room before I had the New York Times crossword app?! We’ve learned to expect instant gratification, and modern technology continues to deliver.
There are many life lessons that we all learn as we grow and mature. Many of these are learned and experienced at different points in time and under varying circumstances depending on the individual. I have been fortunate in my life be the student of many such lessons, often at the hands of personal mentors and close friends. However, often times the greatest lessons we learn come from the results of our own personal decisions, both poor and positive. One of the more challenging of these lessons is learning how to quit while you’re ahead.
This story starts the same as countless others: A fresh-faced young man graduates college with boundless optimism and brimming confidence that he will immediately land his dream job only to be met with the harsh realities of the real world job market. Okay, now that that’s out of the way, let’s get to it.